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    How to Keep Your Child from Becoming a Snowflake

    Some good advice for a younger generation.

    How to Keep Your Child from Becoming a Snowflake

    The cult of safetyism dates only to about 2013. That was the start of an era in which it became worryingly common to hear that, on this or that elite campus, speech was being classified as a harmful substance. Today, some of the youngest crop of graduates from those top colleges are overreacting to casual remarks at the office and marching on to Human Resources to file formal complaints. Phrases associated with safetyism — snowflake, trigger warning, safe space — became clichés almost as quickly as fake news did.

    As Greg Lukianoff and Jonathan Haidt point out in their book The Coddling of the American Mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas Are Setting Up a Generation for Failure, the Right has exaggerated the extent of the problem — most members of the post-Millennial generation sometimes called iGen are perfectly normal and functional human beings. Nevertheless, the shift starting in 2013 was measurable. There are some fragile young people out there, and what they’re suffering from overlaps quite a bit with the symptoms of persistent anxiety or depression. Haidt and Lukianoff have some advice on how to stop your children from becoming as breakable as potato chips.

    Advanced snowflake syndrome may be new, but the treatment for it isn’t. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is a guide to breaking bad mental habits that the authors wittily trace back to the late-Roman politician Boethius, who faced a problem even worse than an offensive Halloween costume: He was awaiting execution when he wrote The Consolation of Philosophy in his jail cell. His imaginary interlocutor, Lady Philosophy, asked him the sorts of questions one poses to oneself in CBT.

    The evidence that CBT works is “overwhelming,” the authors say...

    ...That dispiriting experience ties into what Haidt and Lukianoff call the three great untruths that serve as the foundation for their book. All three are being indulged by overly cautious parents and by overly solicitous educators:

    One: What doesn’t kill you makes you weaker.

    Two: Never question your feelings, because feelings can’t be wrong.

    Three: Life is a battle between the good and the evil.

    The authors note that these three shibboleths are contradicted by both ancient wisdom and contemporary psychological research, and that they poison the individuals and communities that embrace them. These untruths, which are being fueled by social-media behavior, tie into sharp increases over the last few years in teen depression, anxiety, and suicide, especially among girls. The suicide rate among teen girls is up nearly 100 percent since the early years of this century....
    Tradition is not the worship of ashes, but the preservation of fire. ― Gustav Mahler

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    There is a real problem with overprotective parents who coddle their children and insulate them from hardships and reality.

    It's similar to parents who don't allow their children to be exposed to dirt and germs that help build a healthy immune system.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Common Sense View Post
    There is a real problem with overprotective parents who coddle their children and insulate them from hardships and reality.

    It's similar to parents who don't allow their children to be exposed to dirt and germs that help build a healthy immune system.
    Wont the dirt here on TPF cure them of that?

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    Interesting @4.50 on.

    Are you an antifragilist, Chris?

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    The antifragile idea comes from Nassim Nicholas Taleb.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Common Sense View Post
    There is a real problem with overprotective parents who coddle their children and insulate them from hardships and reality.

    It's similar to parents who don't allow their children to be exposed to dirt and germs that help build a healthy immune system.
    Agreed, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

    ...in moderation naturally
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    So then conflict is good then...even on a forum, long as it doesn't turn into childish name calling and such. Disagreement is how people learn and progress in their thinking.
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    Ways to develop anti-fragility:

    Tradition is not the worship of ashes, but the preservation of fire. ― Gustav Mahler

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    Quote Originally Posted by Chris View Post
    Some good advice for a younger generation.

    How to Keep Your Child from Becoming a Snowflake
    I did it by not being one. Worked fine.
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