Why is it that

[donttread]

Either a husband or wife can selfishly or carelessly make a choice for the other that they should have consulted about with them. But only the husband ( when the aggrieved party) can call the wife out on it and HE;'S the wrong one? There is some $#@! women are going to have to give up if they want real equality and the freaking "emotion gets me out of jail free card" is one of them.
If a mod feels this is better in rants and cares enough to move it feel free to do so. It is MOSTLY sad in the way we jest about the differences between the sexes/
OMG. Did I just claim that men and women are different? And ignore the other dozen or so "new genders" at the same time? . What kind of PC purgatory time do I get for that?

[Abby08]

Something go wrong today?

[donttread]

Something go wrong today?

Nope. i knew better than to call her out on it but REALLY wanted to. LOL. It was a minor deal though.

[jimmyz]

After having children within a marriage and raising them then divorcing I have found much value in being single and having a friend(s) with benefits.

Your house and other assets are not at risk. You need not have the responsibility of maintaining the life and happiness of a woman who at any time may jump ship for the greener grass on the other side of the fence.

But what about loneliness? Having someone who cares for you? You other half? I am whole and secure in my own happiness without needing another live-in, live-on albatross around my neck whom falls in and out of love on a whim while having no sense of loyalty nor honor in their marriage vows.

I was bitter way back when. Now it is the good life as long as it lasts.

"You're drinking too much! Your cigars stink! Pick-up your socks! My mother is coming over for the weekend! I'm not in the mood! I want to go on a diet!" NOPE... none of that ever again. HA!

[Dr. Who]

Either a husband or wife can selfishly or carelessly make a choice for the other that they should have consulted about with them. But only the husband ( when the aggrieved party) can call the wife out on it and HE;'S the wrong one? There is some $#@! women are going to have to give up if they want real equality and the freaking "emotion gets me out of jail free card" is one of them.
If a mod feels this is better in rants and cares enough to move it feel free to do so. It is MOSTLY sad in the way we jest about the differences between the sexes/
OMG. Did I just claim that men and women are different? And ignore the other dozen or so "new genders" at the same time? . What kind of PC purgatory time do I get for that?

It may seem that men are on the receiving end of criticism but women are simply not as vocal about what they put up with. Women who are being belittled by men don't talk about it until it reaches the point of extreme abuse. Men talk about being in the dog house because it's easy to commiserate with other men about the topic, but women don't actually for the most part share that kind of information, regardless of how emotionally injurious the conversations and realistically, while women nag, men can be far more belligerent and threatening in the same circumstances. I have known many women terrified to allow their husbands to know about certain purchases, even if it's for their children and necessary.

[countryboy]

It may seem that men are on the receiving end of criticism but women are simply not as vocal about what they put up with. Women who are being belittled by men don't talk about it until it reaches the point of extreme abuse. Men talk about being in the dog house because it's easy to commiserate with other men about the topic, but women don't actually for the most part share that kind of information, regardless of how emotionally injurious the conversations and realistically, while women nag, men can be far more belligerent and threatening in the same circumstances. I have known many women terrified to allow their husbands to know about certain purchases, even if it's for their children and necessary.

It's a double edged sword. Men and women are equally capable of bad communication. Most good marriages don't happen by accident, they are the result of concerted effort on the part of both parties. A good marriage is hard work, and sadly, many are unwilling to do what it takes.

[gamewell45]

It's a double edged sword. Men and women are equally capable of bad communication. Most good marriages don't happen by accident, they are the result of concerted effort on the part of both parties. A good marriage is hard work, and sadly, many are unwilling to do what it takes.

Amen to that. Both people have an equal vested interest in the marriage and working together as a team can make it a successful one.

I'm happy to say that in the 30+ years I've been married, not once have either of us screamed at each other or cursed at each other nor struck each other in anger (in fact neither of us have ever struck our children in anger as well). Rule of thumb; never go to bed angry with each other because if one of you never awakens in the morning, then it'll be too late to make amends. Always resolve the issue before calling it a night. If we have a disagreement, we always talk it over and resolve it one way or another; at least for us it's worked well over the years.

Like you say, a good marriage is hard work. The end results can bring everlasting happiness.

[Dr. Who]

It's a double edged sword. Men and women are equally capable of bad communication. Most good marriages don't happen by accident, they are the result of concerted effort on the part of both parties. A good marriage is hard work, and sadly, many are unwilling to do what it takes.

Too many people marry for the wrong reasons and end up regretting their choices. If your spouse isn't also your friend and wouldn't be your friend but for marriage, staying married will be a challenge. Sex does not a marriage make.

[countryboy]

Amen to that. Both people have an equal vested interest in the marriage and working together as a team can make it a successful one.

I'm happy to say that in the 30+ years I've been married, not once have either of us screamed at each other or cursed at each other nor struck each other in anger (in fact neither of us have ever struck our children in anger as well). Rule of thumb; never go to bed angry with each other because if one of you never awakens in the morning, then it'll be too late to make amends. Always resolve the issue before calling it a night. If we have a disagreement, we always talk it over and resolve it one way or another; at least for us it's worked well over the years.

Like you say, a good marriage is hard work. The end results can bring everlasting happiness.

God love ya man. Sincere, heartfelt congratulations to you and your other half.

I wish I could say the same. My wife and I have had some rough times, even separated once. But we did some counseling, and Christian mentoring, and it taught us some very good techniques to communicate, and manage conflict better. We'll never be perfect, but we're doing quite well. We've only been together 29 years, but truth be told, we've only been married 16.

[Dr. Who]

God love ya man. Sincere, heartfelt congratulations to you and your other half.

I wish I could say the same. My wife and I have had some rough times, even separated once. But we did some counseling, and Christian mentoring, and it taught us some very good techniques to communicate, and manage conflict better. We'll never be perfect, but we're doing quite well. We've only been together 29 years, but truth be told, we've only been married 16.

Hubby and I have been together for 44 years - since 1975. I was 20 and he was 22. We lived together for 12 years and then decided, what the heck, let's get married, which we did in 1987. There have been a few ups and downs most recently related to the effect of chronic pain due to his back issues, but the anger associated with that ultimately passed about 10 years ago. I think that we have weathered the worst challenges and neither one of us is going anywhere else voluntarily.