Be a lady

[carolina73]

You don't buy what? Me? or the first post in the thread?

That was a reaction to the original post, not your post.

[donttread]

I found this interesting, and accurate. Society, which includes other women, have standards for women that are both often unachievable and confusing. The issue of weight is a good place to start where there is less politicization, but don't be fat because that's gross... but if you're too thin, you're sick. But that's the size of women in media. But real men don't like women who are that skinny.

It's sort of a ping-pong of expectations which I am sure that men also experience, but it would seem like women experience it on a broader range of issues. Another one might be the idea of a strong female boss; she's strong, experienced and intelligent, but also a shrew and a $#@!. Again, this is also women labeling other women.

Ignore it, men do and we still find women and have friends. IMO, most of the fashion rules and do's and don'ts for women are for other women.
Men just aren't that fussy.

[Standing Wolf]

Ignore it, men do and we still find women and have friends. IMO, most of the fashion rules and do's and don'ts for women are for other women.
Men just aren't that fussy.

This is pretty much what I was going to add. Yes, everyone agrees that these contradictory and confusing "rules" and judgments are applied to both sexes, by both sexes, but - generally speaking - men do not care...either about what others think about them, or what others think about others. They find attractive or off-putting what they, as individuals, find attractive or off-putting, and don't worry so much about what others are thinking and saying.