I'm a supportive guy but your sexuality is old news. Spunk, I figured out you were gay years ago. On the fn Internet. Are there people in your life that really didn't know?
I'm a supportive guy but your sexuality is old news. Spunk, I figured out you were gay years ago. On the fn Internet. Are there people in your life that really didn't know?
Whoever criticizes capitalism, while approving immigration, whose working class is its first victim, had better shut up. Whoever criticizes immigration, while remaining silent about capitalism, should do the same.
~Alain de Benoist
I've tried to pick this whole thing apart for a long time. For me personally, as a male, I think my attention to a male's sexuality escalated from "measuring them up" to "that's actually kind of impressive" to "if I were a woman, I'd be all over that" to "Oh $#@!, I'm gay." The thing I still don't understand is how my interest in females de-escalated from a moderate erotic interest that I remember having at a very young age to absolutely nothing as I feel now. That may be some kind of a fear or respect of a woman's "personal" space that embedded itself in my mind. This is only a personal perspective.
Faith can move mountains, but don't forget to bring your shovel.
Peter1469 (12-06-2013)
Its the opposite for straight dudes. Girls were annoying and meh at a very young age and now I'd slap my sister for a chance to $#@! Olga Kurylenko.
I remember coming out to this community, and you're right. It was years ago. To answer your question, it's not news to many people I know. I was careful to design it that way, by neither lying nor being suggestive. I was panning this day for years. It's hard for you to understand the social complexities and internal conflicts associated with being 100% gay, especially as a male. It takes balls to be ENTIRELY yourself, but it also takes balls to preserve your character when revealing your true self in an unforgiving world. You don't want to seem like you're just trying to $#@! with people for attention; you don't want to seem like you're not sure of yourself; you don't want to seem like you're afraid or ashamed ; but all the while that is hard to do while maintaining sincerity and appropriateness. I want people to know that nothing has changed, and that I had no intentions of ever fooling anybody. NONE of this needs to be considered by any straight person, because their sexual identity is inherent. It's true that most people simply don't care, but that's only part of it. Now that I'm out, I have to think of people wondering "Why NOW did he come out? I thought I was good friends with him, why hasn't he told me before?" Even my mom asked me tonight "[Spunkloaf], people KNOW you. I tell everybody you're gay when I talk about you." I explained to her that it's different than me being my own man and telling people directly rather than them having to hear it from others and live with that elephant in the room. If I had just announced it without this much care to the reception of it, people might misunderstand my intentions and doubt my sincerity. It's because people in general simply don't understand the nature of it, and that includes myself.
Faith can move mountains, but don't forget to bring your shovel.
Mister D (12-07-2013)
I know the feeling. I have faint memories. In my case, my sexuality was awakened at a very young age, and it seems that is not so uncommon for many people. For the sheltered-minded, it would shatter their world if they found out how many kids are experimenting these days, and the age it begins. But, it also seems to make little difference for who turns out straight or gay.
Faith can move mountains, but don't forget to bring your shovel.
Good for you. Be true to yourself, $#@! what everyone else has to say.
spunkloaf (12-07-2013)
I guess Spunk if this is what makes you happy? I an happy for you!
What I don't understand is why I needed to know! I am guessing that you are the same person today as you were yesterday!
That is my confusion with the G.L.B.T communities? Why is it important that I know what you like!
Do you feel it makes you different today that yesterday?