My nephew, who is almost thirty, finally came out today. I've been waiting for about 15 years. I think everyone except his parents knew. It was like an open secret in the family that no one could mention because of his father. I'm so happy that he is now free. He is the sweetest and nicest person that you could ever hope to know and trying to pretend be someone who he is not, has almost driven him to suicide. This is a great day, because now he can really have a life and stop hating himself for not being the son that his father expected. It's not that he was treated badly by his father - the opposite. His father adores him and in a way has lived vicariously through him. My nephew is very talented, as is his father.
Had he been treated badly, I'm sure he would have come out years ago, but he was so afraid to hurt his parents that he has been torturing himself for years. He has never even admitted it to the family and no one pressed him about it, but we all knew since he was about 11 or 12, maybe even before.
I'm so happy for him because now he can be himself and actually have a life - he deserves to be happy.