Should you wait until your mom dies to start taking her furniture?

[Abby08]

My mom had a grandfather clock I really liked, I told her right out, when she died I wanted her to leave me that clock in her will.

Well, we laughed about it and, she said, "sure " my 2 sisters were there and, heard all of this.

Mom died and, my older sister called a couple of weeks later and told me they were all at mom's house, "dispersing " her things.

My younger sister took the living room furniture and a TV, my niece took the almost new dining room set, my older sister took a bedroom set. All of this was done without me, without even asking me if I wanted anything, without giving me enough notice, so I could be there.

I don't know where the clock is, my sister said she doesn't know either.

[Abby08]

Cotton, just ask your mom, right out, if you can have the rug, since it doesn't look like she uses it.

[montana]

My mom had a grandfather clock I really liked, I told her right out, when she died I wanted her to leave me that clock in her will.

Well, we laughed about it and, she said, "sure " my 2 sisters were there and, heard all of this.

Mom died and, my older sister called a couple of weeks later and told me they were all at mom's house, "dispersing " her things.

My younger sister took the living room furniture and a TV, my niece took the almost new dining room set, my older sister took a bedroom set. All of this was done without me, without even asking me if I wanted anything, without giving me enough notice, so I could be there.

I don't know where the clock is, my sister said she doesn't know either.

Had the same kind of thing happen when my mom died. Just found out 5 years later my oldest daughter has a nativity set of my grandparents had from Germany in the 40's. It was to be mine by my mothers wishes.700 miles apart my sister and brother cleaned out most but thats ok. I got her paintings and diaries that taught me a lot.

[Cotton1]

Cotton, just ask your mom, right out, if you can have the rug, since it doesn't look like she uses it.

I just did. She's "thinking" about it lol

I'll give her till tomorrow. If by then I haven't heard back I will simply buy one myself.

Then, when she does call and says "sure you can have it"

I will then say

"Dang, you seemed like you were having mixed feelings so I bought one myself just as nice"

Then she will feel bad for not saying yes when I asked the first time"

I dont mean that in an ugly manner.

I just do not want to add positive reinforcement to indecision. If I do that it only creates "thinking about it " as the correct answer.

If I accept that answer too many times, I'll get to

[Crepitus]

Serious question!

I decided I want a new area rug for my living room. A really large nice one.

I'm shopping online and I think "hey why shell out the capital if I might can get one for free?

I thought "mom has a huge area rug in her house that I love. Would it be so wrong to simply call her and "check up on her" (shes 82) and say "hey mom just checking on you. BTW, can I have the big area rug out of your living room'?

To be fair. She never uses that end of the house anyway. Shes not going to live forever at which time she will not need it anyway.

She doesnt even use it now and shes alive.

Was that in poor taste?

Wow.

You people are nuts.

[Cotton1]

Wow.

You people are nuts.

Not at all. This is nutty

[Cotton1]

Had the same kind of thing happen when my mom died. Just found out 5 years later my oldest daughter has a nativity set of my grandparents had from Germany in the 40's. It was to be mine by my mothers wishes.700 miles apart my sister and brother cleaned out most but thats ok. I got her paintings and diaries that taught me a lot.

You know what they say !

"It's not how you play the game. It whether you win or lose" !

[stjames1_53]

Being subtle when dealing with the elderly is important too.

Acceptable: "you don't ever use that end of the house anyway"

Not acceptable: "It won't be too many years until you won't be using either end of the house "

Good God Man!!!! Do you hear yourself? You're starting to sound like a democrat............
"She'll never miss that grand old toilet, ya think?"
Dat's ok, buy her a bed pan.............

[stjames1_53]

Wow.

You people are nuts.

Your nut room is three doors down and on the left.

[Cotton1]

Good God Man!!!! Do you hear yourself? You're starting to sound like a democrat............
"She'll never miss that grand old toilet, ya think?"
Dat's ok, buy her a bed pan.............

Emptying a bedpan huh? That'll have to be top of the chore list for "unskilled laborers" wink wink