The weird, lingering life ​of post-breakup objects...

[DGUtley]

The weird, lingering life of post-breakup objects...


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Exiting a relationship leaves you with two kinds of junk: the things you can hold in your hands, and the things you can't. Emotional purging takes time, takes work. But we're living in a cultural moment that asks us to winnow down our physical belongings, too. Those of us who live in big cities face tiny apartments with closets that can barely hold our winter coats, let alone the winters of all our discontents. A partial exhibit of what gets left behind:

• Two wine glasses, a broken wristwatch, and a nice silver pen, which I left in a shoebox at the curb. They disappeared that same afternoon.
• A silver infinity knot ring that I had to stop wearing because it turned my finger green.
• Books, many. (I always keep the books.)
• The "Jem & the Holograms" T-shirt I'd been wearing in the first photograph ever taken of us, in our freshman dorm before an '80s-themed party.
• A rough clay mug the color of smoke, hand-thrown by his sister.

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[Cotton1]

I like this one lol


"A rough clay mug the color of smoke, hand-thrown by his sister."

[US Conservative]

[US Conservative]

One time I saw a new truck with "Whats her name?" Scratched into the sides and rear.

Seems like it would fit in that museum.

[Manny Decker]

When my wife walked she took everything she wanted whilst I was at work, I came home and read the walk out note she had left and I calmly drank a cup of tea.

I got up and slowly looked at what she left behind of hers in the house;
The family photo albums of our children, the oil paintings, her fathers sketches, water colour scenes, her vast collection of knitting patterns/crochet. Then I went into the kitchen, she left her supermarket stamp book with over £200 in it. The Gods were smiling on me.

The first few years after the divorce my eldest son would ask if he could borrow the photo albums, his mother asked and she wanted to make copies, of course i as more than happy to do that the next time I went into the loft I’d bring them down. After a 5-6 years he stopped asking.

My eldest son also asked if his mother could have her father oil paintings, sketches and water colour pictures, to which i answered this time the truth “no I consider them mine, your mother didn’t take them when she left, after all this time they are mine”

Cold hearted of me?

I consider I behaved rather well don’t you?

[Dr. Who]

When my wife walked she took everything she wanted whilst I was at work, I came home and read the walk out note she had left and I calmly drank a cup of tea.

I got up and slowly looked at what she left behind of hers in the house;
The family photo albums of our children, the oil paintings, her fathers sketches, water colour scenes, her vast collection of knitting patterns/crochet. Then I went into the kitchen, she left her supermarket stamp book with over £200 in it. The Gods were smiling on me.

The first few years after the divorce my eldest son would ask if he could borrow the photo albums, his mother asked and she wanted to make copies, of course i as more than happy to do that the next time I went into the loft I’d bring them down. After a 5-6 years he stopped asking.

My eldest son also asked if his mother could have her father oil paintings, sketches and water colour pictures, to which i answered this time the truth “no I consider them mine, your mother didn’t take them when she left, after all this time they are mine”

Cold hearted of me?

I consider I behaved rather well don’t you?

I guess it would depend on why she left. It would seem that she was in a hurry, in order to leave behind such sentimental items.

[FindersKeepers]

When my wife walked she took everything she wanted whilst I was at work, I came home and read the walk out note she had left and I calmly drank a cup of tea.

I got up and slowly looked at what she left behind of hers in the house;
The family photo albums of our children, the oil paintings, her fathers sketches, water colour scenes, her vast collection of knitting patterns/crochet. Then I went into the kitchen, she left her supermarket stamp book with over £200 in it. The Gods were smiling on me.

The first few years after the divorce my eldest son would ask if he could borrow the photo albums, his mother asked and she wanted to make copies, of course i as more than happy to do that the next time I went into the loft I’d bring them down. After a 5-6 years he stopped asking.

My eldest son also asked if his mother could have her father oil paintings, sketches and water colour pictures, to which i answered this time the truth “no I consider them mine, your mother didn’t take them when she left, after all this time they are mine”

Cold hearted of me?

I consider I behaved rather well don’t you?

I don't know if you behaved well. Some people are so entrenched in the idea that the other person in a relationship somehow belongs to them, that they find small ways to poke and prod the other long after the relationship is over.

I'm sorry your relationship ended, and I don't know why she left--perhaps she had an affair? That would make the spouse left behind very angry.

But, in my view, you can't move forward if you're still clinging to the past. I'd bundle up the albums (or copies of them), her father's sketches, and anything else that has more meaning to her than to you. I'd tell your son to give it to his mother.

Then, I'd forget about her. Literally. She's part of your past. Keeping those things from her--just my armchair opinion--may be emotionally keeping you from living the happy life you deserve.

[countryboy]

The weird, lingering life of post-breakup objects...


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Exiting a relationship leaves you with two kinds of junk: the things you can hold in your hands, and the things you can't. Emotional purging takes time, takes work. But we're living in a cultural moment that asks us to winnow down our physical belongings, too. Those of us who live in big cities face tiny apartments with closets that can barely hold our winter coats, let alone the winters of all our discontents. A partial exhibit of what gets left behind:

• Two wine glasses, a broken wristwatch, and a nice silver pen, which I left in a shoebox at the curb. They disappeared that same afternoon.
• A silver infinity knot ring that I had to stop wearing because it turned my finger green.
• Books, many. (I always keep the books.)
• The "Jem & the Holograms" T-shirt I'd been wearing in the first photograph ever taken of us, in our freshman dorm before an '80s-themed party.
• A rough clay mug the color of smoke, hand-thrown by his sister.

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Hahaha, great line.

[Manny Decker]

I don't know if you behaved well. Some people are so entrenched in the idea that the other person in a relationship somehow belongs to them, that they find small ways to poke and prod the other long after the relationship is over.

I'm sorry your relationship ended, and I don't know why she left--perhaps she had an affair? That would make the spouse left behind very angry.

But, in my view, you can't move forward if you're still clinging to the past. I'd bundle up the albums (or copies of them), her father's sketches, and anything else that has more meaning to her than to you. I'd tell your son to give it to his mother.

Then, I'd forget about her. Literally. She's part of your past. Keeping those things from her--just my armchair opinion--may be emotionally keeping you from living the happy life you deserve.

Everything is bundle up in black plastic bin liners and carefully stored in the loft.

Yeah, she met someone else whilst I was away working, since then I’ve moved on, remarried and got on with my life.

We get on fine, I’m not a guy that wants payback, she gets on with her life and I do mine. My sons are happy we get on well. She is the mother of my children, how can I show my sons how not to behave, I’m the bigger person.

[Manny Decker]

I guess it would depend on why she left. It would seem that she was in a hurry, in order to leave behind such sentimental items.

My friends wife told me very much later on that she knew what was going on behind my back, but how can you tell someone that a wife was having an affair, for all she knew if she’d told me I could quite possibly cut my wife’s head off and stuck it in a freezer?