Stop waiting for your soulmate... Love isn’t destiny. That’s what makes it so sweet.
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Do you believe in true love? Probably so: 94 percent of Americans say they do, according to one 2019 survey by the data-collection company Statista. I am one of them, after 30 years of marriage to my true love.
True love isn’t too controversial, I think. But a large portion of Americans also hold some even more romantic—and less realistic—beliefs about love. According to a 2017 survey run by the dating site Elite Singles, 61 percent of women and 72 percent of men believe in love at first sight. Back in 2011, a Marist poll asked, “Do you believe in the idea of soul mates, that is two people who are destined to be together?” To this question, 74 percent of men and 71 percent of women answered “yes.”
To many of those who believe in them, these widespread, almost magical notions of romance might be the that a more earthbound approach to romance is better—that true love over the long haul is a combination of good luck, free will, and hard work. The evidence shows that the latter group is correct. What’s more, engaging in fanciful ideas about romantic love can make it harder to find and keep.
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https://www.theatlantic.com/family/a...ign=pockethits