What's the best way to get over a relationship break-up?

[jet57]

I did.

It was a supreme challenge to be cool or even sensible in showing my feelings for her.

So, I will have this lesson to learn from for a while.

You open her doors, pull chairs out for her, bask in her beauty, but don't ever lose the ability to say 'no' to something rather than always trying to keep her happy. Women like men to sort of lead in a more nondescript "independent man" kind of way. If she wants to go look at dresses, then don't be afraid to say that you don't want to go because she might want to be "together"...
She needs to be heard: pour some wine for her and sit and listen: don't try to solve her problems in that mode, she wants to complain and be emotional, she doesn't want some guy trying to tell her how to fix everything so she'll stop complaining.

[The Booman]

Heavy alimony?

[Cotton1]

Take what you learned from the relationship, good and bad. Take some time to improve yourself - physically and or mentally, do something you've always wanted to do. Do something social, volunteer or join a group that does something you enjoy.

You'd be surprised how quickly you will feel better about yourself, and think less about what wasn't to be in your life.

I think he has the situation under control. I saw her downtown on all on fours with.a feed pouch tied around her neck and him riding on her back

[Cotton1]

I've been lucky with women since I was a teen. My "teachers" were older women who saw something in me that they liked. The river flowed to my door and i just dipped my cup in whenever I wanted, much of the time.

But I've never known anyone like her.

As the song goes, 'if I can't have her, I don't want nobody, baby...'

LOL

I trust you handled it like a man. Manly men give her gf's a long ride on Mr Dik then dump her like soup down a disposal.

Ahh..young love

[Cotton1]

Sounds to me like you gave your power away.

That's what tends to happen when a guy.trades his.nut sack in as down payment on a wedding dress

[Cotton1]

The girl I broke up with was Muslim.

And as much as she was Westernized, she was never forthcoming with me and I believe that was due to the complications of Islam on her and, ultimately, on us.

In order to satisfy my needs, she would have had to stop seeing her Muslim friends and no longer have anything to do with her Muslim relatives unless they all submitted to industrial grade vetting.

And of course that would be impossible for her to do. And nothing I could seriously expect.

As opposed to those who are unthinkingly xenophobic, I find Muslims can be very genteel, warm and gracious. And the greatest chess masters and great thinkers commonly hail from the area of what was Persia, now Iran. But if they are committed to obeying Allah's word and emulating the perfect example of the Prophet, it could mean using their charm and grace to advance the Islamic agenda of conquest and expanding Islamic influence until the entire world is Islamic and America is Shariah ruled.

I've never known a woman who was more sweet, self controlled, smart, alluring and desirable.

It was not meant to be.

I will never forget her and I know she'll never find anyone who wanted her more than I did.

She has ruined me for anyone else, but I hope she can find happiness some day.

Good play . With a closing send off as nice as that one at least they won't hunt you down if she turns up as a floater in one of the local drainage ditches

[Cotton1]

You open her doors, pull chairs out for her, bask in her beauty, but don't ever lose the ability to say 'no' to something rather than always trying to keep her happy. Women like men to sort of lead in a more nondescript "independent man" kind of way. If she wants to go look at dresses, then don't be afraid to say that you don't want to go because she might want to be "together"...
She needs to be heard: pour some wine for her and sit and listen: don't try to solve her problems in that mode, she wants to complain and be emotional, she doesn't want some guy trying to tell her how to fix everything so she'll stop complaining.

You are such a charmer. Did she enjoy the manicure you gave her using a hatchet ?