My dad judges my husband for not making enough money...

[Tahuyaman]

I'm afraid Dad is indulging his own chauvinism, in that he thinks it's wrong for the husband to make less money than the wife, regardless of his stated concerns. Were the situation reversed, I doubt that he would be saying anything. He needs to keep his comments to himself. If his meddling causes a problem in his daughter's marriage and it ends up failing as a result, she is going to blame her father.

I think he’s just over-protective of his daughter. He’d probably have a problem with any son in law

[2cent]

I think he’s just over-protective of his daughter. He’d probably have a problem with any son in law

That was my take, as well. The, "Nobody's good enough for my daughter," attitude. And Daddy's Little Girl isn't strong enough to push back, or she wouldn't be showing signs of agreeing w/him.

They could use a good dose of, "My Best Friend's Wedding." (Much as I can't stand J. Roberts.)

[Common]

Its always a strain when they wife makes more money...but thats an old more', today many women have high paying positions and WHO is to say its wrong to fall in love below your station...meaning the husband is less educated and makes less...Men have been doing that forever.

Im a Dad of daughters and a son. I never meddled in any of their marriages except once..when I told my son in law at christmas dinner, that I would drag him outside and beat him to death if ever talked like that to my daughter in front of our family again...He actually started an argument at dinner and told her to shut her mouth...I went berserk...shes the only daughter that got divorced and remarried thank god they didnt have children.

[donttread]

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My husband and I have been married for two years and together for five. We’re both in our late 20s and live in New York. He works for a nonprofit and I’m a management consultant. Overall, we’re pretty happy. But one significant issue is that my dad disapproves of the fact that my husband doesn’t make a lot of money. This is particularly bad going into the holidays, when we visit my family, and always results in tension.


I know that my dad means well and is looking out for me. But he thinks that my husband lacks ambition and is “mooching” off of my income. He makes comments about how we need to plan for the future more, and that our household income will be tough to live on when we have kids (which we hope to do someday). The thing is, he’s not entirely wrong. I definitely don’t think my husband is lazy, and I’m perfectly happy earning more money than he does. But sometimes I do wish that he would be able to contribute more to our shared expenses and savings (his paycheck is less than half of what I make — I’m in the low six figures, and he makes a little over $50,000). He’s very touchy about it, though, especially because of my dad. When I bring up the future, he gets really defensive. I’m also worried that I might just be internalizing what my dad says. Am I selfish to be thinking these things? What should I do?


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Number one 95 % of the country raises kids on less than 150K, you'll be fine. Even in NY
Number two Ask dad what he made in his late twenties
Number three Non Profits can be a launching pad for bigger opportunities,
Number four this is between you and your husband. Period. YOU need to tell dad to leave it be!

[2cent]

Number one 95 % of the country raises kids on less than 150K, you'll be fine. Even in NY
Number two Ask dad what he made in his late twenties
Number three Non Profits can be a launching pad for bigger opportunities,
Number four this is between you and your husband. Period. YOU need to tell dad to leave it be!

[donttread]

That was my take, as well. The, "Nobody's good enough for my daughter," attitude. And Daddy's Little Girl isn't strong enough to push back, or she wouldn't be showing signs of agreeing w/him.

They could use a good dose of, "My Best Friend's Wedding." (Much as I can't stand J. Roberts.)

Well Mr. well meaning is either going to affect his daughter's marriage or drive her away. Sometimes daddy has to think.